At the end of last year I
was given a book by a friend called The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin and
after hearing about it online and then flicking through the book I was inspired
to do my own Happiness Project. If you haven’t heard of the book, it is
basically about a lady who was tired of feeling run down and miserable all the
time, so she decided to do something about it. She started off on a project
that would span an entire year. Every month was assigned a theme, and within
these themes she came up with a selection of goals to help her reach the
happiness theme of that particular month. It’s a really inspiring and
thought-provoking book, so I would really recommend giving it a read if you
ever get the chance.
So, I decided that I am
also fed up of feeling sad all the time. Having depression makes life
incredibly difficult and, whilst I know I can’t cure myself, I can be more
proactive in my choices, which in turn could lead to an improved state of mind.
Conducting my own Happiness Project seemed like the perfect thing to start in
2015, so I started thinking about how I could do one for myself. I have decided
to use the same monthly themes that are talked about in the book, because I
feel I am able to come up with relevant goals for each of them, which are
personal to me. Obviously no two happiness projects will be the same, because
we all have individual challenges that cause us unhappiness and different
things that make us feel happy. But I felt I could relate the themes to my own
life and come up with a range of goals that cover all aspects of my life.
I thought I would make a
series of posts, over the next year, so that you can experience my Happiness
Project with me, and perhaps even join me and do a project of your own. I will
do a post at the beginning of each month, detailing the monthly theme and the
goals I am aiming towards, and then at the end of the month I will do a brief
wrap-up about how I have got on over the last month and reflect on how the
project is going.
So we have now come to the
end of March and I thought I would have a quick chat to you about how I’ve got
on with this months goals, which were as follows:
Film more YouTube videos
I think I’ve done fairly
well with this goal over the last month and it’s something I really want to
continue and build on. Before, I found I was filming quite a few videos but not
getting them uploaded, so I’ve looked for ways that I can now get them uploaded
without taking up much more of my time. So now, instead of sitting waiting for
things to import/export/upload, I do those kinds of things overnight or leave
them to run while I’m at college. This has resulted in me managing to get a bit
more up-to-date with my uploads and I’m really enjoying adding to my channel a
bit more. It’s definitely something I need to keep working at if I want my
channel to take off.
Promote my blog
This is something I’ve not
found so easy because I worry about annoying people if I post too much. But
I’ve managed to find some groups I can promote blog posts in, as well as
posting on my Facebook profile, Twitter, Pinterest, Google+ and Instagram. If
anyone has any ideas of other ways I can promote my blog and increase my
readers I’d love to hear them.
Ask for help
Now, this goal was probably
the hardest one to achieve, but also probably the most important. I’m very good
at convincing myself that I have to manage on my own, be it in my personal
life, with college or anything else. So I really had to push myself to ask for
help with things I’m struggling with. With regards to my mental health, I
haven’t been that great at doing this, so I really need to work on that. But
certainly at college I’ve tried to be really proactive in asking for help when
I don’t understand the work, rather than struggling on and getting myself in a
state. And it’s definitely helped me feel less stressed – why didn’t I do this
sooner?!
Enjoy now
So I just said that the
last goal was the hardest, but this definitely came a close second! I’ve really
struggled to achieve this goal if I’m totally honest, but that’s not a massive
surprise! I’ve always been the kind of person who will worry about what’s
happened in the past and get anxious about what might happen in the future, so
it’s really hard to let myself just enjoy the here and now. I’ve really tried
to force myself to forget about the past and future, but unfortunately it
hasn’t really worked. It’s obviously something I want to keep working on
though, so I will definitely be keeping it at the front of my mind because I
think this is key to feeling happier.
I’ve also had a go at
keeping up with my other goals from previous months, which has been going
fairly well, although I’m still yet to tidy out my wardrobe – I’ll get there
one day! I did manage to go to the cinema twice in March though, firstly to see
The Second Best Exotic Marigold Hotel and then to see Cinderella, both of which
were great.
So there we have it. Four
different goals I’ve worked on this month. I’ve really enjoyed having some
goals to focus my energy on and I’ve found doing it this way a lot more
achievable than if I just set myself some general New Years resolutions. If you
would like to take part in your own Happiness Project and happen to take any
photos as part of it, please use #JensHappyProject so I can check out what
you’ve all been up to!
Have you read The Happiness Project?
Do you have any goals you’ve achieved this month?
I've never heard of the happiness project but what a fantastic idea.
ReplyDeleteI think I might have to buy it and give it a go myself!
AliceMegan
That's great hun you'll have to let me know how you get on xx
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