So, January is known for
being one of the most depressing months of the year, and personally I’ve always
found it quite difficult. After all the excitement of Christmas, with all its
pretty lights and socialising, January always seems so dark and bleak. That’s
why I decided to write a post about things I’ve found that make me feel a bit
happier – I also asked some friends to contribute too! So, take a look at my
ideas and maybe you’ll find something that works for you too.
Listen to music
It’s amazing how much one
song can change your mood – there are some that can have me in tears, while
others make me feel I can take on the World. I like to make different play
lists to suit how I’m feeling. I’ll have one full of upbeat songs, another with
chilled out music and one full of those sorts of songs that bring a tear to
your eye. Because, although it’s great to listening to something uplifting, I
do think that occasionally you need to let yourself wallow a bit; shed the odd
tear, and then carry on.
Eat the right foods
I’ve always had an interest
in what different foods do to your body, and after doing a bit of research I’ve
discovered that there are a lot of foods that have been shown to have a
positive effect on mental wellbeing. For example, Brazil nuts contain something
called selenium, with low levels of this being thought to increase the risk of
depression and anxiety. Then you’ve got bananas, which contain a plethora of
amazing amino acids and vitamins, including tryptophan, which the body uses to
make serotonin, a neurotransmitter that affects mood. Finally, one of my
happiest discoveries was dark chocolate – proving you don’t just have to eat
rabbit food to stay healthy. The darker the chocolate, the better, as it has
been shown to cause the brain to release endorphins and boost serotonin levels.
So, next time you’re telling yourself to avoid your favourite sweet treat, keep
in mind that a small amount can actually be good for you!
Exercise
I’m sure you’ve all heard
about the benefits of exercise – improving circulation and heart health,
burning excess calories and keeping your weight in a healthy range. But I think
one of the most important benefits of exercise relates to your mental health.
Getting your heart racing regularly makes your body release those all important
endorphins, which apparently trigger a positive feeling in the body similar to
that of morphine (but obviously much healthier!) I think the key is to find
exercise that you enjoy, rather than pushing yourself to do something you hate,
as it will just outweigh the benefits and make it feel like a chore. You might
find you love running, or swimming, or cycling, or it could be something less
intense like yoga, dancing or walking.
Get outdoors
This can be combined with
exercise if it fits in with your routine, but even just sitting out in the
garden for ten minutes can help. I’ve noticed that personally, if I have a day
when I don’t leave the house, my mood is considerably lower. There’s just
something about feeling fresh air on your face that seems to help me reconnect
with the World and reality. Obviously the British weather isn’t always
particularly conducive to us getting outdoors, but even if it’s pouring with
rain you can still have fun. Just pop your wellies and raincoat on, put your
umbrella up and jump in some puddles!
Laugh and Smile
This may seem like quite an
obvious thing to do to boost your mood, but is easier said than done if you’re
not feeling great. But actually, even putting on a fake smile or trying to make
yourself giggle can have the same effect as a real smile. It sends happy
messages to your brain, tricking it into thinking you have something to smile
about. Give it a try next time you’re feeling down – you might be surprised!
Volunteer
Giving up your time to help
someone else not only benefits the person or organisation you’re helping, but
will leave you feeling more positive too. I’ve volunteered in various roles
over the years and it really is nice to know that you’re making a difference to
someone else’s life.
Compliment others
I guess this is a bit
similar to volunteering in a way – giving something without expecting anything
in return. I think complimenting someone else makes you feel good about
yourself because you know you’ve made someone else feel good too. And, if
you’re lucky, you might get a compliment back!
Reconnect
With us all leading busy
lives, it’s so easy to lose touch with friends and families, and before you
know it, a year has gone by and you’ve spent the majority of your time working
or crashed out on the sofa in front of the TV. Social contact is so integral to
mental wellbeing, so take an opportunity to reconnect with those you love.
Whether it’s sending a text, writing an e-mail or letter, picking up the phone
or arranging a meet-up. It doesn’t take long, but even a simple text can help
you feel closer to someone again.
Get closer
As humans, we have a basic
need to feel loved and cared about, so it’s not surprising that something as
simple as a hug can bring numerous benefits to health and wellbeing. Hugs have
been shown to encourage healing, boost oxytocin levels and strengthen the
immune system. So, find a willing partner and get hugging!
Watch the Box
Something that really helps
me when I’m feeling down is to escape into television. Whether it’s your
favourite film, drama or comedy, there’s nothing better than curling up on the
sofa and forgetting your worries for a bit. Some of my personal recommendations
would be Miranda, Mrs Browns Boys or a good Disney film.
Get your beauty sleep
I don’t know about you, but
if I don’t get enough sleep I’ll be grouchy, lethargic and a lot more negative.
I have no patience and get into that lovely cycle of catastophising, where
every little problem becomes a massive drama. Sleep is so important for keeping
you in a positive mood, so come up with a relaxing bedtime routine, perhaps
including a bubbly bath and a warm milky drink, to send you off to the land of
nod.
Be creative
I guess this might be more
of a distraction technique for some, but I think it can also help boost your
mood, as it’s always nice to see the end product of something you’ve been
making. This is such a wide-ranging suggestion – you can do anything from
baking to painting and from knitting to colouring in. Whatever it is that you
enjoy. While you’re doing it, it gives you something else to focus on, and you
get something positive out of an originally difficult situation.
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A yummy chocolate orange cake we made |
Look for inspiration
There is so much out there,
that I’m not quite sure where to start. Inspiration is actually quite a
personal thing, so explore what inspires you. It might be a particular quote,
photograph, book or YouTube video. It doesn’t really matter what it is, as long
as it has meaning to you. I thought I’d share one of my favourite quotes
to get you started.
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This quote from Harry Potter |
Indulge in some pampering
I know a lot of us aren’t
very good at pampering ourselves – there’s always something more important that
needs doing – cleaning the house, doing the weekly food shop, ferrying children
to and from various activities. But it’s so important to be kind to yourself,
and even something little like painting your nails can make you feel so much
better about yourself. So, book an appointment with yourself, write it
in your diary and stick to it like you would any other diary appointment. Run
yourself a bubbly bath, put a facemask on and, for half an hour, just relax.
Try a new look
When I’ve been ill,
something I’ve really missed is going to the hair salon. I guess it ties in
with pampering yourself, but I love nothing more than sitting back on the
hairdressers chair and having my head massaged, before getting my hair chopped
and coloured. I leave the salon feeling a lot more positive, as my hair bounces
from its salon blow dry!
Visit the spa
If I won the lottery, one
thing I think I would do is book myself regular trips to the spa. Being relaxed
works wonders for my mood and after a day of being massaged, cleansed and preened
I often feel like I’m floating out of the door. Unfortunately, regular spa days
probably aren’t that feasible for most of us, but take a look in your local
area, as there are often some great deals to be had on treatments like massages
and facials. Or, if you’re lucky enough to have a willing partner, I’m sure a
DIY massage will go down just as well!
Look through old photos
Since my Gran was diagnosed
with Dementia, I’ve come to realise just how powerful a photo can be. I’ve
always known that I’ve enjoyed looking through old photos – my Mum has loads of
albums from when I was a baby, right through until my youngest sister was born,
and we have great fun flicking back through all the hilarious embarrassing
snaps my parents took of us! Over the last few years I’ve made my Gran some
photo memory books, and it’s just amazing what a change you can see in her when
we go through them with her. She very rarely smiles these days, but looking
back through her old wedding photos brings a smile every time.
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My Grandparents on their Wedding Day |
Sing like no one’s listening
Have you ever seen one of
those films where a teenage girl, hairbrush in hand, dances round her bedroom,
belting out a power ballad? I’m sure you must have, but have you ever tried it?
Singing at the top of your lungs, like no one can hear you, is pretty
liberating and a great way to make you feel happier. Go on, give it a try!
Read a book
Another method of escaping
reality is to get lost in a good book. I’ve always been a bookworm and just
love being transported to a different World from the one I’m currently in. I’ve
got a list as long as my arm of books I’d like to read, so there’s never a
shortage of choices when I need them. And if I’m struggling to concentrate on
reading an actual book, there are always audio books to listen to, which can be
just as good.
Write a letter
I think it’s a shame that
we seem to have lost the art of writing letters to each other. When I joined
AYME when I was
diagnosed with M.E. I was assigned a pen pal, and this was the start of my
snail mail obsession! I love getting new stationery and writing paper, then
filling it with my thoughts and plans. And I always keep an eye out for Mr
Postie, to see if there’s any mail for me. Seeing a handwritten letter on the doormat
never fails to put a smile on my face.
Have some furry therapy
It’s a well-known fact that
animals are good for your health. That’s why you see all these different
schemes that take animals into hospitals and nursing homes, to provide some
furry therapy to patients and residents. We’ve had pets in our house since I
was about 8, starting with hamsters and guinea pigs, and moving on to cats and
dogs. Cuddling up to a pet can reduce anxiety, lift your mood and even lower
your blood pressure. If you don’t have a pet of your own, ask a friend if you
can borrow one for an hour or two – I’m sure they’ll be willing to share!
A little bit of what you fancy
I’m a strong believer in
the saying ‘A little bit of what you fancy does you the world of good!’ Denying
yourself pleasures like chocolate, wine or even a duvet day is just going to
make you feel miserable in the long run. As they say, you only live once, so I
try to live by the ‘everything in moderation’ mantra.
Make plans
I’m one of these people
that can get quite stuck in the past, worrying about things I have or haven’t
done and struggling to move forwards. That’s why I find it helpful to make
plans to look forward to. Not silly, unobtainable plans, but realistic goals
that I have a belief I’ll be able to achieve. These can be bigger plans, like
booking a holiday or a day out with a friend. But they can also be smaller,
day-to-day things, like planning to tidy your cupboard or watch a DVD. I like
to make sure I have little things to look forward to every day, which can
really help if I’m struggling with motivation.
Be grateful
It can be easy to go
through life keeping yourself busy, flitting from task to task and complaining
about things that are going wrong. But sometimes we lose sight of the good
things in our lives – we can take them for granted and just expect them to be
there. That’s why actually sitting down and jotting down what you’re grateful
for can be really beneficial. On those days where everything seems to have gone
wrong, it can be really uplifting to actually look for the grey cloud’s silver
lining, because there always is one, no matter how dark the situation.
Make a Happy Jar
Something that I’ve decided
to do this year, after seeing photos on places like Instagram and Pinterest, is
to keep a ‘Happy Jar.’ Basically, you decorate an old jar and fill it with
happy moments throughout the year. Then, at the end of the year you empty it
out and read through all the happy moments from the past year. I’m looking
forward to doing this, as these are the kind of memories that tend to get lost
amongst bigger events.
Mindfulness
This is a term that I’ve
come across during treatment, and to be honest at first I was a bit sceptical.
The idea of mindfulness is to focus on being completely in the moment, using
your five senses to make yourself aware of what’s going on around you. And I
find that it does actually help, in those moments when everything is becoming
overwhelming and gloomy. It helps to relax your body and mind, and get away from
the negative thoughts whizzing through your brain.
Play a game
As children, we probably
played games every day. But as we get older, we start to shy away from games a
bit, which is a real shame, as they can be such a good distraction and such a
laugh when played with others. Be it board games or computer games, there’s
something for everyone. Some of my favourite memories include time spent
playing games with my family.
Get snapping
I’ve already talked about
looking through old photos as a way to boost your mood, but it can be just as
fun taking new pictures. Whether it’s taking photos of a special event, or
simply heading into nature and capturing the beauty around us, snapping moments
to remember forever can be great fun.
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One of my favourite things to take photos of is flowers |
Have a hot drink
Sometimes, when you’re
feeling low, all you really want is to feel comforted and safe. If I’m
struggling, I’ll often make myself a hot drink – tea, coffee, hot chocolate or
hot squash, whatever takes your fancy, then curl up on the sofa with your hands
round your favourite mug. Perfect.
Treat yourself
Treating yourself doesn’t
have to mean splashing out on something massive (although, of course, this is
definitely allowed from time to time!) But it could also be something as simple
as your favourite magazine, a pretty new top or pair of shoes or a slick of
your favourite lipstick. Just something a little bit special that will lift
your mood and make you feel that you’re worth spending time on.
Make changes
This is possibly one of the
most difficult suggestions, but also one of the most important. Identifying
what makes you unhappy is one thing, but to move forwards you actually need to
make some changes, otherwise it will just continue to bring you down. Now, I
know this isn’t always easy, as some things can’t just be changed with a click
of your fingers. But even the thought that you are working towards change can
bring positive vibes and make you feel like you’re being proactive and working
towards a better future.
100 Happy Days
Finally, in my quest for
happiness, I came across the 100 Happy Days Project.
This is a photo-taking task, where you take a photo for 100 days, with
something that makes you happy each day. You decide how you will track your
progress – through Facebook, Instagram, or privately through e-mail, and assign your project a hash tag. I love the
idea of this, as it’s encouraging me to find happiness in every day. I'm using Instagram and Facebook to track my project, and my hash tag is #happyproject if you're interested in following my photos!
Do you struggle with the month of
January? How do you like to boost your mood?